Wani dangi ya mutu a cikin dare a gida: abin da za a fara yi¶

Idan ka sami kakanni, iyaye, abokin tarayya, ko wani dangin da ya mutu a cikin dare, tabbas kana cikin firgita. Wannan al'ada ce. Hankalin ku na iya jin babu komai, hannuwanku na iya girgiza, kuma ƙila ba za ku iya sanin ainihin abin da ke faruwa ba. Ba ku yi wani abu ba daidai ba, kuma babu wani abu game da wannan lokacin da laifinku ne.

An rubuta wannan jagorar a hankali kuma a bayyane da gangan. Abu daya ne kawai ya kamata ya faru da sauri, kuma shine farkon kiran waya. Komai na iya jira yayin da kuke numfashi, zama, kuma ku ɗauki abin da ya faru. Kuna iya karanta wannan shafi sau ɗaya a lokaci ɗaya, ko kuma ku mika wayarku ga wanda ke tare da ku kuma ku ce su karanta ta da ƙarfi.

Yi wannan yanzu¶

1. Dauki numfashi daya a hankali, sannan wani. Zauna idan za ku iya. Ba ka cikin wahala, kuma ba dole ba ne ka kasance da ƙarfi a yanzu.
2. Kira lambar gaggawa ta gida (911 a Amurka da Kanada, 112 a cikin Tarayyar Turai, 999 a cikin Burtaniya). Duba cikin lambobin gaggawa page idan kana wani wuri. Ka ce, "Ina tsammanin wani ya mutu a gida, ba su yi tsammanin mutuwa ba." Ba da adireshin, kuma ku tsaya kan layi.
3. Yi abin da mai kiran ya nema. Idan akwai wata dama za a iya taimaka wa mutumin, za su iya tambayarka da ka fara damun kirji su yi magana da kai. Idan ya tabbata cewa mutumin ya mutu, za su gaya maka a hankali kuma su bayyana abin da zai faru a gaba.
4. Bari daki yadda yake. Kada a gyara, ko wanke-wanke, ko motsa abubuwa. Magunguna, kofuna, kayan kwanciya, da wayoyi yakamata su tsaya a inda suke har sai kwararrun sun kasance.
5. **Buɗe kofar gida *** idan za ku iya, kuma kunna wuta don ma'aikatan lafiya ko 'yan sanda su same ku. Saka dabbobin gida a wani daki.
6. Ka ce wani ya zo. Da zarar an yi kiran farko, sai ka buga wa amintaccen abokinka, makwabci, ko dangi ka ce, Don Allah ka zo mini. Kada ku kadaita don wannan idan kuna iya taimaka masa.

Babu wani abu a wannan shafin da ake buƙatar yin a cikin sa'a ta farko. Kuna iya zama tare da mutumin, ku riƙe hannunsu, ku yi bankwana, ku yi kuka. Babu ranar ƙarshe ga ko ɗaya daga ciki.

Ba ku yin wani abu ba daidai ba¶

Mutane da yawa a cikin wannan yanayin suna damuwa cewa da sun lura da wani abu, sun bincika tun da farko, ko kuma sun yi wani abu dabam. Wasu kuma suna jin laifi domin sun ji bacin rai, ko ma natsuwa, ko don dariya ko jin daɗi ko fushi. Duk waɗannan halayen gama gari ne. Bakin ciki da kaduwa basa bin rubutun.

Idan mutuwar ta kasance ba zato ba tsammani, babu abin da kuka yi ko ba ku yi ba a daren jiya. Mutuwar kwatsam a gida galibi tana faruwa cikin nutsuwa kuma ba tare da faɗakarwa ba, har ma a cikin mutanen da suka yi kyau a ranar da ta gabata. Likitoci da masu bincike na ganin hakan kowace rana.

Kwararrun da suka zo ba za su kasance a can don zarge ku ba. Suna nan don su kula da mutumin, su kula da kai, da kuma sanin iyakar abin da ya faru.

Kuna iya jin kanka yana cewa "idan kawai" a cikin kwanaki masu zuwa. Wannan wani bangare ne na bakin ciki, kuma yana wucewa a hankali. Ka kasance mai kirki ga kanka kamar yadda za ka yi wa abokin da ke wurinka.

Kiran da ya kasa jira¶

Lokacin da aka sami wani ya mutu kuma ba a tsammanin mutuwar, kiran farko da ya dace shine lambar gaggawa. Wannan gaskiya ne ko da kamar ba za a iya yin komai ba. Mai kira yana buƙatar aika taimako na horarwa, kuma za su yanke shawara, tare da ku, ko za a iya gwada wani abu don taimakawa mutumin.

Kar a fara kiran gidan jana'izar. Kada ka kori mutum a ko'ina da kanka. Kar a jira har sai da safe domin ana jin karin ladabi. Kira nan da nan abu ne mai kyau da mutuntawa a yi, kuma yana kare ku.

Me za a fada a waya¶

Ba kwa buƙatar cikakkun kalmomi. Kuna iya faɗi ɗaya daga cikin waɗannan:

• "Kakata ta rasu a gida, da safe na same ta."
• "Ina jin dad na ya rasu, baya numfashi kuma ya yi sanyi."
• "Ban san me zan yi ba, wani ya mutu kuma babu wanda ya yi tsammanin hakan."

Sannan amsa tambayoyin gwargwadon iyawar ku. Yawancin lokaci za su tambayi adireshin, sunanka, shekarun mutumin, da ko mutumin yana numfashi. Idan ba ku san amsa ba, ku ce, "Ban sani ba." Hakan yayi kyau.

Tsaya akan layi har sai sunce zaka iya ajiye waya. Idan ba za ku iya magana ba, ko kuma ba ku da madaidaitan kalmomi a cikin yaren ku, ku tsaya kan layi ta wata hanya. Yawancin ayyuka na iya kawo mai fassara, kuma wasu ƙasashe suna ba ku damar yin rubutu. The lambobin gaggawa shafi yana lissafin zaɓuɓɓuka ta ƙasa.

Idan mai kira ya tambaye ku don fara CPR¶

Wani lokaci mai kiran zai tambaye ka ka sanya mutumin a kasa kuma ya fara damun kirji. Wannan na yau da kullun ne. Ana buƙatar su gwada sai dai idan an tabbata cewa mutumin ya mutu na ɗan lokaci. Za su ƙidaya tare da ku, mataki-mataki, kuma ba ku buƙatar horo.

Idan mutumin ya riga ya yi sanyi kuma ya taurare, ko mai kiran ya gaya muku ba lallai ba ne don fara CPR, zaku iya tsayawa ku jira kawai. Idan kuna son koyan abin da CPR ya ƙunshi, akwai kwanciyar hankali a cikin Jagoran CPR, amma ba kwa buƙatar karanta shi kafin a kira.

Wanda za a kira: lambar gaggawa, likita, ko ma'aikacin jinya¶

Wannan ita ce tambayar da ta fi rikitar da mutane, don haka ga shi a fili.

Idan ba ku da tabbas, kira lambar gaggawa. Babu wanda zai yi fushi da ku don yin wannan kiran. Aikin tiyatar likita da ke rufe ko layin nas wanda ke zuwa saƙon murya bai kamata ya jinkirta kiran farko ba.

Me yasa likita ba koyaushe shine kiran farko ba¶

A cikin ƙasashe da yawa, likitan iyali (wanda ake kira GP a Burtaniya) zai iya sa hannu kan takardar shaidar mutuwa kawai idan sun ga mutumin kwanan nan kuma ana tsammanin mutuwar daga wani sanannen rashin lafiya. Idan mutuwar ba zato ba tsammani, likita ba zai iya sanya hannu ba, kuma dole ne a ba da rahoton mutuwar ga ma'aikacin bincike, likitan binciken likita, ko jami'in makamancin haka. Shi ya sa mutuwar ba zato ba tsammani kan kai ga hukumar ba da agajin gaggawa, wani lokacin kuma ‘yan sanda.

Wannan tsari ne, ba zato ba. Akwai don iyalai su sami cikakkiyar amsa a hukumance game da abin da ya faru.

Abin da za a bar ba a taɓa ba har sai kwararru sun ce¶

Kasancewa cikin nutsuwa da barin abubuwa yadda suke shine mafi taimako abin da zaku iya yi yayin jira. Wannan ba batun boye wani abu bane. Yana barin ma'aikatan lafiya, 'yan sanda, da masu bincike su yi aikinsu cikin sauri kuma suna ba ku mafi kyawun amsoshi.

Don Allah a bar waɗannan kamar yadda suke:

• Matsayin mutumin, sai dai idan an tambaye ku don fara CPR. Kuna iya rufe su a hankali da takarda ko bargo idan yana taimaka muku, amma kuyi ƙoƙarin kada ku motsa su.
• Magunguna, akwatunan kwaya, tabarau, kofuna, da duk wani abu akan teburin gado.
• Kayan kwanciya, tufafi, da ɗakin kanta. Kada a wanke ko gyara.
• Wayoyi, kwamfutar hannu, kwamfutar tafi-da-gidanka, littattafan rubutu, da kowane haruffa ko bayanin kula kusa da mutumin.
• Kayan aikin likita, bututun iskar oxygen, da saka idanu. Bar su yadda suke, amma kuna iya kashe ƙararrawa mai ƙarfi idan kuna buƙata.
• Kofofi da tagogi. Kuna iya buɗe ƙofar gaba don ma'aikatan jirgin, amma kar a cire ko ɓoye wani abu.

Idan kun riga kun motsa wani abu kafin ku karanta wannan, don Allah kada ku damu. Kwararru sun san cewa iyalai suna yin abubuwa na halitta cikin kaduwa. Faɗa musu gaskiya abin da kuka taɓa, kuma abin da za su buƙata ke nan.

Abin da za ku iya yi¶

Ba sai ka tsaya a daskare ba. Akwai abubuwa masu tausasawa waɗanda ke karɓuwa gaba ɗaya:

• Zauna kusa da mutumin kuma ka riƙe hannunsa.
• Yi bankwana, ko faɗi abin da kuke son faɗa.
• Ka rufe idanunsu idan a bude suke, idan kana iya. Wasu mutane sun fi son barin abubuwa su kaɗai, kuma hakan yana da kyau.
• Sanya bargo mai haske akan su.
• Kashe injin dumama ko murhu idan akwai haɗari, kuma a nisanta dabbobin gida.
• Rubuta lokuta don ƙwararrun: lokacin da kuka gan su da kyau, lokacin da kuka same su, da lokacin da kuka kira.

Idan kun damu game da yaro a cikin gidan, nemo amintaccen ɗaki mai daɗi tare da babban amintaccen amintaccen ɗaki. Jagoran zuwa samun wanda ya mutu, shi kadai ko yana yaro ya shafi yadda ake tallafawa yaro a farkon lokacin.

Abin da ke faruwa lokacin da ma'aikatan lafiya ko 'yan sanda suka zo¶

Iyalai da yawa suna mamakin, kuma wasu lokuta suna tsorata, lokacin da 'yan sanda suka isa bayan mutuwa a gida. Wannan na yau da kullun ne. A yawancin ƙasashe 'yan sanda suna halartar kowace mutuwa kwatsam ko ba zato a madadin mai binciken ko kuma likita. Ba yana nufin kowa ya tuhume ku da wani abu ba.

Yawancin ma'aikatan za su shigo cikin nutsuwa. Masu aikin jinya za su duba mutumin kuma su tabbatar, tare da ɗan gajeren jarrabawa da girmamawa, ko za a iya yin wani abu. Idan mutumin ya mutu a fili, za su gaya maka haka, cikin kirki. A wasu wuraren za su jira 'yan sanda ko likita kafin wani abu ya faru.

Abin da jami'an za su saba tambaya¶

Jami'ai ko masu bincike na iya tambaya:

• Wanene kai da kuma yadda kuke da alaƙa da mutumin.
• When you last saw them alive and how they seemed.
• Whether they had any illnesses, took any medicines, or had recent falls or illnesses.
• Who their doctor is.
• Whether anyone else was in the home overnight.

Answer as honestly as you can. If you do not remember, say so. You can ask for a pause and a glass of water at any time, and you can ask a friend or relative to sit with you while you talk.

Why the room may be looked over¶

Officers may look through the room and at the person's medicines. This is a standard record. They are noting whether anything is out of place, whether medication has been taken as expected, and whether the death could be explained by an illness the person already had. In almost all cases the answer is simple and kind: the person's body stopped, and nobody could have changed that.

You may be asked to step out of the room for a short time. You can ask when you will be able to return, and you can ask to see the person again before they are taken.

Who takes care of the body¶

If the death is natural and clearly explained, the doctor or coroner's officer will arrange for the person to be taken by a funeral director or a transport service. If the cause is not clear, the coroner or medical examiner may arrange for the person to be taken to a mortuary and may order a post-mortem examination. This takes time, and it is nothing to be afraid of. It is done so that the cause of death is certain and the family gets answers.

You can ask how long this is likely to take, who will contact you, and when the funeral director can collect your loved one. You do not need to pick a funeral director in the first hour. The professionals can tell you the next steps.

A flow of the first hour¶

flowchart TD
    A["You find your family member and think they have died"] --> B["Kira lambar gaggawa ta gida"]
    B --> C{"Does the call taker ask you to start CPR"}
    C -->|"Ee"| D["Follow the call taker step by step"]
    C -->|"A'a"| E["Stay on the line and wait for help"]
    D --> F["Crew arrives and takes over"]
    E --> F
    F --> G["Paramedics confirm what has happened"]
    G --> H["Police or doctor may attend as routine"]
    H --> I["Coroner or doctor decides next steps"]
    I --> J["Funeral director collects your loved one when released"]
    J --> K["You can rest and take the next days slowly"]

Staying with the person¶

Some people want to stay beside the person who has died until the professionals say it is time to go. Others cannot bear to be in the room. Both are completely normal.

If you want to stay, you may sit quietly, hold a hand, or speak to them. Many people find comfort in saying words they did not get to say. You may feel a sense of peace, or confusion, or emptiness. Do not judge what you feel.

If you do not want to stay, you can wait in another room with a friend. You have not abandoned the person. They are being cared for by people who know what to do.

If you want to say a prayer or ritual¶

Faith traditions and cultures have important customs after a death. You can tell the paramedics, police, and funeral director what matters to your family: for example, a prayer, a special washing, a particular position, or burial within a certain time. Many services know these needs well and will do their best to respect them.

If your family follows traditions that need to be done quickly, tell the professionals early. They can often speed up the paperwork or arrange for a family member or religious leader to be present. It is fine to say, "Our faith asks us to do certain things soon. Can you help?"

Seeing the person later¶

After the person has been taken, you may want to see them again. In many countries funeral homes and mortuaries allow families to visit. You can ask the funeral director when and how this is possible. There is no right or wrong choice, and you can change your mind.

Looking after yourself in the first hours¶

Shock can make your body feel strange: cold, shaky, dizzy, sick to your stomach, or numb. Your memory may feel patchy, and ordinary tasks may seem impossible. This is your body and mind coping with something very big.

Try these small things:

• Sit down and place both feet on the floor.
• Sip a drink of water or something warm and sweet. Eat a small snack if you can.
• Wrap yourself in a blanket if you feel cold.
• Breathe out slowly for longer than you breathe in. This can calm a racing heart.
• Ask someone to stay with you. Do not be alone if you can help it.
• Let yourself cry or not cry. Both are fine.

If you feel chest pain, trouble breathing, or you feel faint or unwell, tell the paramedics straight away. They are there for you too. If you ever feel that you cannot go on, or have thoughts of harming yourself, tell someone straight away and read the guide to looking after yourself in acute grief.

Who to tell, and when¶

Once the professionals have arrived and you have had a moment, you may wish to tell other family members. You do not need to do this immediately, and you do not need to do it alone.

If you are the first person to find out, think about who needs to hear in person and who can be told by phone. It can help to ask one calm person to make the calls on your behalf. Say what has happened plainly: "I am so sorry to tell you that Grandad died in the night. We called the emergency services, and they are with us now."

Telling people who live far away¶

Telling people far away is hard. Short and clear is kind: say who has died, that it was unexpected, and that you will contact them again with more information. You do not need to explain details. You can say, "I do not have all the answers yet, but I wanted you to hear it from me."

Telling children¶

Children should be told honestly and gently, with words they understand and an adult they trust beside them. The guide to gaya wa yara da matasa game da mutuwa gives simple wording for each age.

Pets, locks, and the practical small things¶

Even in these first hours, small practical matters appear. A few notes may help:

• Pets may be frightened or may try to stay near the person. Put them in another room, and ask a friend to take them if you can. Do not let them be a worry on top of everything else.
• Doors and keys: make sure someone can let the crew in. If you are alone and cannot get to the door, tell the call taker and they can arrange access.
• Medication: do not throw anything away. The professionals will tell you what to do with medicines later.
• Cooking and appliances: turn off anything that could cause harm.
• Your own medicines: if you take medicine at this time of day, take it as usual if you can.

The guide to the awanni na farko da kwanaki bayan mutuwa a gida has a full checklist when you are ready, but it can wait.

What happens next in the days that follow¶

Bayan sa'o'i na farko, ƴan matakai na yau da kullun suna biyo baya. Sun bambanta ta ƙasa, amma tsari iri ɗaya ne.

1. Likita, mai ba da rahoto, ko mai binciken likita yana yanke shawara ko za a iya bayar da takardar shaidar mutuwa ko kuma ana buƙatar ƙarin bincike.
2. Ana kai mutumin gidan jana'izar ko dakin ajiyar gawa.
3. Ana gaya wa iyalin lokacin da za su iya shirya jana'izar da yin rajistar mutuwar.
4. Iyali suna yin tsare-tsare a cikin nasu taki.

Ƙwararrun da suka halarta za su gaya muku abin da ke gaba, kuma kuna iya tambayar su su rubuta. Yana da kyau a ce, "Za ku iya sake gaya mani a hankali," ko "Za ku iya rubuta mini wannan."

Me yasa za a iya samun jinkiri¶

If a coroner or medical examiner is involved, it may take a day or several days before the funeral director can collect your loved one. This can be frustrating and painful. Ask the coroner's office, or the officer who attended, for a contact number and the name of a person you can call. Funeral directors can often help you speak to the coroner's office.

Bambance-bambance ta ƙasa¶

Dokoki sun bambanta, don haka bincika gida. Waɗannan bayanan gabaɗaya ne, ba shawarwarin doka ba.

A Amurka¶

Call the emergency number (911). Paramedics will begin resuscitation unless there is a valid do-not-resuscitate order or the signs of death are clear. Police usually attend sudden deaths, and the county coroner or medical examiner may take responsibility for the person.

A funeral home can collect the person once the coroner or doctor releases them. Death certificates are usually issued by a doctor or the coroner.

A Burtaniya¶

Call 999. Paramedics and often the police attend. If the death was unexpected, the police act on behalf of the coroner, and the person is usually taken to a mortuary.

A coroner may order a post-mortem examination. In England and Wales, a death must normally be registered within five days, but if a coroner is involved, the registrar will tell you when. NHS and government websites explain the steps in plain language.

A Kanada¶

Call 911. Paramedics and police attend. A coroner or medical examiner is involved in sudden or unexpected deaths, depending on the province or territory. The funeral home collects the person once they are released.

A Ostiraliya¶

Call 000. Paramedics and police attend an unexpected death, and the police act for the coroner. A funeral director can help with paperwork once the coroner has released the person. Each state and territory has its own coroner's office.

A wasu kasashen¶

Most countries follow a similar pattern: someone must confirm the death, a doctor or official records the cause, and then a funeral can be arranged. The lambobin gaggawa page can help you find the right number. Your local embassy or consulate can help if you are a visitor abroad.

When the person was elderly or ill but you did not expect it¶

Many people die at home of natural causes, even when they were not known to be dying. Heart rhythm problems, strokes, and other sudden events can happen in sleep. Families often say, "But she was fine yesterday." This can make the shock worse.

You may never know exactly why. Sometimes a post-mortem examination or the doctor's records give the answer, and sometimes the answer is simply that a heart stopped. Whatever the cause, it does not mean you missed something. Ordinary life does not include looking for signs that nobody could see.

If the person lived alone¶

If the person lived alone and you were the one who found them, you may feel guilt for not having visited sooner. Please be gentle with yourself. Caring for someone does not mean being there every moment. The professionals will help you find the right people to contact, and you can ask them what to do about the home and the pets.

If the person was under a doctor's care¶

If they had regular care, tell the paramedics and police the name of their doctor. A doctor who knew the person well can sometimes help the process move faster. You can also ask the doctor's office to give you a clear explanation of the person's health in the days to come.

Practical things you can ask for¶

During the visit, you may feel unable to think. It is completely fine to ask the professionals for help. Examples:

• "Can you write down your name and the case number?"
• "Who should I call tomorrow?"
• "Can you tell me what will happen to my loved one?"
• "Can you call a friend or relative for me?"
• "Is there a bereavement service, chaplain, or victim support person who can help?"

Many police services and ambulance services have a bereavement liaison officer or can arrange for someone to ring you after a day or two. Hospitals and community groups often offer support too.

What not to worry about yet¶

It can help to name the things that can wait. You do not have to decide any of these today:

• Funeral choices, burial or cremation, flowers, or music.
• Telling everyone you know.
• Cancelling subscriptions, bank accounts, or phone plans.
• Cleaning the room or sorting belongings.
• Writing an obituary or sending notices.
• Finding a will.
• Deciding who will inherit what.

All of these can be handled in the days and weeks to come, with help from family, a funeral director, and a solicitor or attorney if needed. The guide on the awanni na farko da kwanaki bayan mutuwa a gida walks through them in a calm order.

Taking care of the people around you¶

If other people are in the home, including children, older relatives, or friends, they may need your attention. Try to share the load. Ask one person to make tea, another to phone family, another to look after pets or children.

If a child has seen what happened, stay close to them and speak calmly. Children are often more resilient than adults expect when they are told the truth in kind and simple words. The guide on gaya wa yara da matasa game da mutuwa can help.

Notes on first aid training¶

If this experience has made you want to feel more prepared, a hands-on first aid course from the Red Cross, St John Ambulance, or a local provider can teach CPR and what to do in an emergency. It is not necessary today, and you should not feel pressure to do anything of the sort now. Many people find that learning later helps them feel less helpless.

Tambayoyin da ake yawan yi¶

Do I have to call the emergency number if I am sure the person has died?¶

Yes. If the death was unexpected, the right first call is to your local emergency number, even if it seems obvious that nothing can be done. The call taker can guide you, send trained help, and make sure the correct officials are told. Calling quickly is the right and respectful thing to do and protects you from any later questions.

Why did the police come, and does it mean I am in trouble?¶

No. In most countries police attend every sudden or unexpected death at home on behalf of the coroner or medical examiner. It is a routine step to record what happened and help find the cause of death. It does not mean anyone suspects you of anything, and you can ask a friend or relative to sit with you while the officers speak to you.

Can I stay with my loved one until they are taken away?¶

In most cases, yes. Professionals understand that families want to say goodbye, and many are very kind about this. Ask the paramedics or police when it is best to step away and whether you can see the person again afterwards. If you are not sure, ask them to explain what will happen.

What if I touched or moved something before I called?¶

Please do not worry. Professionals know that people do natural things in shock, such as straightening a blanket, holding a hand, or moving a medicine bottle. Simply tell them honestly what you touched, and that is all they will need. You have not harmed anything by caring for your loved one.

An duba tushe¶

• NHS (United Kingdom): "What to do after someone dies" and "How to register a death".
• GOV.UK (United Kingdom): "When someone dies" overview, and guidance on deaths reported to a coroner.
• Red Cross (American Red Cross, British Red Cross) guidance on bereavement and coping with loss.
• American Heart Association (United States) guidance on CPR and responding to a collapse.
• Government of Canada and provincial coroner services: general guidance on reporting a death.
• Australian Government (Services Australia) "What to do when someone dies" and state coroner's court information.
• Hospice da ƙungiyoyin kula da lafiya, gami da National Hospice and Palliative Care Organisation (Amurka) da Hospice UK, akan wanda za a kira bayan mutuwa a gida.

Procedures vary by country, region, and circumstances. Always follow the instructions of the emergency call taker and local officials.

Jagora masu alaƙa¶

• Expected death at home: who to call first
• Finding someone who has died, alone or as a child
• First hours and days after a death at home
• Kula da kanku cikin tsananin bakin ciki
• Hospice and end of life crisis