I mate te mema o te whanau i te po kotahi ki te kainga: me aha i te tuatahi¶
He rereke nga nama ohorere i ia whenua. Ka whakamahia e tenei wharangi te 911, te nama mo te United States me Canada. He maha nga whenua e whakamahi ana i te 112, 999, tetahi atu nama ranei. Kimihia te nama mo to whenua.
Mēnā kātahi anō koe ka kite i tētahi koroua, matua, hoa rangatira, tetahi atu mema ranei o te whanau kua mate i te po, kei te ohorere koe. He mea noa tera. Ka noho kore noa to hinengaro, ka wiri o ringaringa, kare pea koe e tino mohio he aha te mea pono. Kaore koe i mahi he, kaore he mea mo tenei wa nau te he.
Ko tenei aratohu he mea tuhi marie me te marama. Kotahi noa te mea me tere tere, koinei te waea waea tuatahi. Ka taea e nga mea katoa te tatari i a koe e manawa ana, ka noho ki raro, ka tango i nga mea kua pa. Ka taea e koe te panui i tenei wharangi kotahi taahiraa i ia wa, ka tuku ranei i to waea ki tetahi kei a koe me te tono kia panuihia e koe.
Mahia tenei inaianei¶
- Kia kotahi te manawa puhoi, katahi ano. Me noho ki raro ki te taea e koe. Kaore koe i te raruraru, kaore koe e kaha i tenei wa.
- Waea atu ki to nama ohorere a rohe (911 i Amerika me Kanata, 112 puta noa i te Kotahitanga o Europi, 999 i te United Kingdom). Tirohia te tau ohorere wharangi mena kei hea koe. Mea atu, "Ki taku whakaaro kua mate tetahi ki te kainga, kahore ratou i whakaaro ka mate." Homai te wahi noho, ka noho ki te raina.
- Mahia ta te kaikawe waea e tono. Mena he tupono ka taea te awhina i te tangata, ka tono pea ia ki a koe ki te timata i te kopeketanga o te pouaka ka korero ki a koe. Mena ka kitea kua mate te tangata, ka korero marie ki a koe me te whakamarama he aha nga mea ka puta.
- Waihohia te ruma kia rite tonu. Kaua e whakapai, kaua e horoi, kaua e nekehia nga mea. Ko nga rongoa, nga kapu, nga moenga me nga waea me noho tonu kia tae ra ano nga tohunga.
- ** Wewetehia te tatau o mua** ki te taea e koe, ka whakakāhia te rama kia kitea koe e nga paramedic, pirihimana ranei. Whakanohoia nga kararehe ki tetahi atu ruma.
- ** Tonoa tetahi kia haere mai.** Kia puta te waea tuatahi, waea atu ki tetahi hoa pono, hoa tata, whanaunga ranei ka mea atu, "Tena koa, haere mai ki ahau." Kaua e noho ko koe anake mo tenei mena ka taea e koe te awhina.
Kaore he mea ke atu i tenei wharangi me mahi i te haora tuatahi. Ka taea e koe te noho tahi me te tangata, ka pupuri i tona ringa, ka poroporoaki, ka tangi. Karekau he wa mutunga mo tetahi o aua mea.
Kaore koe e mahi he¶
He maha nga taangata kei roto i tenei ahuatanga kei te awangawanga kua kite ratou i tetahi mea, i tirohia i mua, i mahi rereke ranei. Ko etahi e hara ana na te mea kua mangere, kua marino ranei, na te kata ranei, i rongo ranei i te whakama, i te riri ranei. He mea noa enei tauhohenga katoa. Ko te pouri me te ohorere kaore e whai i tetahi tuhinga.
Mena i ohorere te mate, kaore koe i mahi, kaore ranei koe i mahi inapo. Ko nga mate ohorere i te kainga he maha nga wa ka ata noho marie me te kore whakatupato, tae noa ki nga tangata i ahua pai i te ra o mua. Ka kite nga taote me nga kaitirotiro matewhawhati i tenei i ia ra.
Kare nga tohunga ka tae mai ki te whakahe i a koe. Kei reira ratou ki te tiaki i te tangata, ki te tiaki i a koe, ki te rapu i nga mea e taea ana e ratou mo nga mea i tupu.
Ka rongo pea koe i a koe e kii ana "mehemea" i nga ra kei te heke mai. He wahanga tera o te pouri, ka pahemo haere. Kia rite te atawhai ki a koe ano me to hoa ki to waahi.
Ko te waea e kore e tatari¶
Ina kitea he tangata kua mate me te kore i tumanakohia te mate, ko te waea tuatahi tika ki te nama ohorere. He pono tera ahakoa te ahua kaore he mea e taea. Ko te kaikawe waea me tuku awhina kua whakangungua, a ma ratou ano e whakatau, me koe, mehemea ka taea te whakamatau tetahi mea hei awhina i te tangata.
Kaua e waea atu ki te whare tangihanga i te tuatahi. Kaua e peia te tangata ki hea koe. Kaua e tatari ki te ata na te mea he ahua pai ake. Ko te karanga tonu te mahi tika me te whakaute, ka tiakina koe.
He aha te korero i runga waea¶
Kaore koe e hiahia ki nga kupu tino tika. Ka taea e koe te kii tetahi o enei:
- "Kua mate toku kuia i te kainga. I kitea e au i tenei ata."
- "Ki taku whakaaro kua mate toku papa. Kare ia e manawa ana, ka makariri hoki."
- "Kaore au e mohio me aha. Kua mate tetahi kaore tetahi i whakaaro."
Na ka whakautu i nga paatai ka taea e koe. I te nuinga o te wa ka patai ratou mo te waahi noho, to ingoa, tau o te tangata, me te mea kei te manawa te tangata. Ki te kore koe e mohio ki tetahi whakautu, me ki atu, "Kaore au e mohio." He pai tena.
Noho i runga i te raina kia kii ratou ka taea e koe te whakairi. Ki te kore e taea e koe te korero, karekau ranei koe i nga kupu tika i roto i to reo, noho tonu i runga i te raina. Ka taea e te maha o nga ratonga te kawe mai he kaiwhakamaori, a ka whakaae etahi whenua ki te tuku panui. Ko te tau ohorere ka whakarārangihia e te whārangi ngā kōwhiringa mā te whenua.
Mena ka tono te kaikawe waea ki a koe kia timata te CPR¶
I etahi wa ka tono te kaikawe waea ki a koe kia tuu te tangata ki runga ki te papa ka timata ki te whakakopeke i te pouaka. He mahinga tenei. Me whakamatau ratou ki te kore e marama kua mate te tangata mo etahi wa. Ka tatau ratou ki a koe, taahiraa i te taahiraa, a kaore koe e hiahia whakangungu.
Mena kua makariri, kua maro te tangata, ka kii mai ranei te kaikawe waea ki a koe kaore e tika kia timata te CPR, ka taea e koe te whakamutu me te tatari noa. Mena kei te pirangi koe ki te ako he aha nga mahi a te CPR, kei reira he hikoi marie i roto i te Aratohu CPR, engari kaore koe e hiahia ki te panui i mua i te waea.
Ko wai hei waea atu: te nama ohorere, te taote, te nēhi hōhipera rānei¶
Koia nei te patai e whakararu ana i te nuinga o te tangata, no reira he kupu marama.
| Turanga | Karanga tuatahi | He aha |
|---|---|---|
| He mate ohorere me te ohorere, kaore i mohiotia he mate kino | Tau ohorere a rohe | Ko nga kaimahi whakangungu me te maha o nga pirihimana me haere mai |
| He mate mate te tangata, a kei raro i te tiaki hohipera | Te raina nēhi tiaki hauora, whakamaoritanga ranei, mena he pera te korero a te mahere | E mohio ana ratou ki te tangata me te mahere; kite te aratohu mate e tumanakohia ana |
| I mate te tangata engari he ohorere te mate | Tau ohorere a rohe | Ina pohehe, waea atu ki te nama ohorere |
| Kaore koe i te tino mohio kua mate te tangata | Tau ohorere a rohe | Ka taea e ratou te arahi me te tuku awhina |
| Kei roto te tangata i te whare tiaki, i te hohipera ranei | Nga kaimahi e mahi ana | Kei a ratou ano o raatau tikanga |
Ki te kore koe e tino mohio, waea atu ki te nama ohorere. Kaore he tangata e riri ki a koe mo to waea. Ko te pokanga a te taote kua katia, he raina nēhi ranei e haere ana ki te mēra reo kia kaua e whakaroa te waea tuatahi.
He aha i kore ai te taote i te waea tuatahi¶
I roto i te maha o nga whenua, ka taea e te taote whanau (e kiia ana he GP i te United Kingdom) te haina i te tiwhikete mate mena kua kite ratou i te tangata i mua tata nei ka mate te mate mai i tetahi mate e mohiotia ana. Mena he mate ohorere, kaore e taea e te taote te haina, me whakaatu te mate ki te kaitirotiro matewhawhati, ki te kaitirotiro hauora, ki tetahi apiha pera ranei. Koia te take ka pa mai te mate ohorere ki nga ratonga ohorere me etahi wa ko nga pirihimana.
He tukanga tenei, ehara i te whakapae. Kei te noho kia whiwhi nga whanau i te whakautu marama me te whai mana mo nga mea i tupu.
He aha te waiho kia kaua e pa ki te korero a nga tohunga¶
Ko te noho marino me te waiho i nga mea kei a raatau ano te mea tino awhina ka taea e koe i a koe e tatari ana. Ehara tenei mo te huna i tetahi mea. Ka taea e nga paramedic, nga pirihimana, me te kaitirotiro matewhawhati te mahi tere me te hoatu ki a koe nga whakautu tino marama.
Tena koa waiho enei penei:
- Te tuunga o te tangata, mena ka tono koe kia timata te CPR. Ka taea e koe te hipoki ata ki te pepa, paraikete ranei mena ka awhina koe, engari kaua e nekehia.
- Nga rongoa, nga pouaka pire, nga karaihe, nga kapu, me nga mea katoa kei runga i te tepu taha moenga.
- Te moenga, te kakahu, me te ruma ano. Kaua e horoi, kaua e whakapai.
- Waea, papa, pona, pukatuhi, me nga reta, tuhipoka ranei e tata ana ki te tangata.
- Nga taputapu rongoa, ngongo hāora, me te aroturuki. Waiho kia rite tonu, engari ka whakawetohia e koe he whakaoho tangi ki te hiahia koe.
- Doors and windows. You can open the front door for the crew, but do not remove or hide anything.
Mena kua nukuhia e koe tetahi mea i mua i to panui i tenei, kaua e awangawanga. Kei te mohio nga tohunga ngaio ka mahi nga whanau i nga mahi taiao i roto i te ohorere. Korero atu ki a ratou i nga mea i pa atu koe, a ko te mea anake e hiahiatia ana e ratou.
He aha ka taea e koe¶
You do not have to stay frozen. There are gentle things that are completely acceptable:
- Sit beside the person and hold their hand.
- Say goodbye, or say what you want to say.
- Close their eyes if they are open, if you feel able. Some people prefer to leave things alone, and that is fine too.
- Place a light blanket over them.
- Turn off a heater or a stove if there is any risk, and keep pets away.
- Write down times for the professionals: when you last saw them well, when you found them, and when you called.
If you are worried about a child in the house, find a safe, comfortable room for them with a trusted adult. The guide to finding someone who has died, alone or as a child covers how to support a child in the first moments.
What happens when paramedics or police arrive¶
Many families are surprised, and sometimes frightened, when police arrive after a death at home. This is routine. In most countries the police attend every sudden or unexpected death on behalf of the coroner or medical examiner. It does not mean anyone suspects you of anything.
The crew will usually come in quietly. Paramedics will check the person and confirm, with a short and respectful examination, whether anything can be done. If the person has clearly died, they will tell you so, kindly. In some places they will wait for police or a doctor before anything else happens.
What the officers will usually ask¶
Officers or investigators may ask:
- Who you are and how you are related to the person.
- When you last saw them alive and how they seemed.
- Whether they had any illnesses, took any medicines, or had recent falls or illnesses.
- Who their doctor is.
- Whether anyone else was in the home overnight.
Answer as honestly as you can. If you do not remember, say so. You can ask for a pause and a glass of water at any time, and you can ask a friend or relative to sit with you while you talk.
Why the room may be looked over¶
Officers may look through the room and at the person's medicines. This is a standard record. They are noting whether anything is out of place, whether medication has been taken as expected, and whether the death could be explained by an illness the person already had. In almost all cases the answer is simple and kind: the person's body stopped, and nobody could have changed that.
You may be asked to step out of the room for a short time. You can ask when you will be able to return, and you can ask to see the person again before they are taken.
Who takes care of the body¶
If the death is natural and clearly explained, the doctor or coroner's officer will arrange for the person to be taken by a funeral director or a transport service. If the cause is not clear, the coroner or medical examiner may arrange for the person to be taken to a mortuary and may order a post-mortem examination. This takes time, and it is nothing to be afraid of. It is done so that the cause of death is certain and the family gets answers.
You can ask how long this is likely to take, who will contact you, and when the funeral director can collect your loved one. You do not need to pick a funeral director in the first hour. The professionals can tell you the next steps.
A flow of the first hour¶
flowchart TD
A["You find your family member and think they have died"] --> B["Waea atu ki to nama whawhati tata"]
B --> C{"Does the call taker ask you to start CPR"}
C -->|"Ae"| D["Follow the call taker step by step"]
C -->|"Kao"| E["Stay on the line and wait for help"]
D --> F["Crew arrives and takes over"]
E --> F
F --> G["Paramedics confirm what has happened"]
G --> H["Police or doctor may attend as routine"]
H --> I["Ka whakatauhia e te Kaitirotiro Matewhawhati, i te taote ranei nga mahi ka whai ake"]
I --> J["Ko te kaiwhakahaere tangihanga ka kohia to hoa aroha ina tukuna"]
J --> K["Ka taea e koe te okioki me te ata tango i nga ra e whai ake nei"]
Staying with the person¶
Kei te pirangi etahi ki te noho ki te taha o te tangata kua mate tae noa ki te korero a nga tohunga kua tae ki te wa. Ko etahi kaore e kaha ki te noho i roto i te ruma. He tino noa nga mea e rua.
If you want to stay, you may sit quietly, hold a hand, or speak to them. Many people find comfort in saying words they did not get to say. You may feel a sense of peace, or confusion, or emptiness. Do not judge what you feel.
Mena kaore koe e pai ki te noho, ka taea e koe te tatari ki tetahi atu ruma me tetahi hoa. Kaore koe i whakarere i te tangata. Kei te manaakihia e nga tangata e mohio ana ki te mahi.
Mena kei te pirangi koe ki te korero he karakia, he kawa ranei¶
He tikanga nui nga tikanga me nga tikanga whakapono i muri i te mate. Ka taea e koe te korero ki nga paramedic, pirihimana, me te kaiwhakahaere tangihanga he aha te mea nui mo to whanau: hei tauira, he karakia, he horoi motuhake, he waahi motuhake, he tanumanga ranei i roto i tetahi waa. He maha nga ratonga e mohio pai ana ki enei hiahia, ka whakapau kaha ki te whakaute i a raatau.
Mena ka whai to whanau i nga tikanga me tere, korero wawe ki nga tohunga. Ka taea e ratou te tere tere te mahi pepa, te whakarite ranei kia tae mai he mema o te whanau, he kaiarahi whakapono ranei. He pai ki te kii, "Kei te tono to tatou whakapono ki a tatou ki te mahi wawe i etahi mea. Ka taea e koe te awhina?"
Ka kite i te tangata i muri mai¶
I muri i te tangohanga o te tangata, ka hiahia pea koe kia kite ano koe. I roto e rave rahi mau fenua, na te mau fare hunaraa e te mau fare pohe e faatia i te mau utuafare ia haere e farerei. Ka taea e koe te patai ki te kaiwhakahaere tangihanga ahea me pehea e taea ai. Kaore he whiringa tika, he he ranei, ka taea e koe te huri i to whakaaro.
Te tiaki ia koe i nga haora tuatahi¶
Ma te ohorere ka puta ke te ahua o to tinana: te makariri, te wiri, te wahangu, te mate o te puku, te hemo ranei. Ko to maharatanga pea ka paopao, me nga mahi noa te ahua kaore e taea. Koinei to tinana me to hinengaro e aro ana ki tetahi mea tino nui.
Whakamātauria enei mea iti:
- Noho ka tuu nga waewae e rua ki te papa.
- Hoki he inu wai, tetahi mea mahana me te reka. Kainga he paramanawa iti ki te taea e koe.
- Ka takai koe ki roto i te paraikete mena ka makariri koe.
- Whakataahua te manawa mo te roa atu i to manawa i roto. Ma tenei ka whakamaarama te ngakau omaoma.
- ** Tonoa tetahi kia noho ki a koe.** Kaua e noho ko koe anake mena ka taea e koe te awhina.
- Kia tangi koe kaua ranei e tangi. He pai nga mea e rua.
Mena ka rongo koe i te mamae o te uma, ka raru te manawa, kei te ngenge koe, kei te ngoikore ranei koe, korero atu ki nga kaiparapara. Kei reira hoki ratou mo koe. Mena ka whakaaro koe kaore e taea e koe te haere tonu, ka whakaaro ranei koe ki te tukino i a koe ano, korero atu ki tetahi ka panui i te aratohu ki te tiaki ia koe ano i roto i te pouri nui.
Note
Kaore koe e hiahia ki te whakatau whakatau nui i tenei ra. Ka taea e nga mahere tangihanga, nga moni, me nga pepa mahi te tatari. Ko te mea anake kaore e taea te tatari ko te waea waea tuatahi, a kua mahia e koe.
Ma wai e korero, me ahea¶
Kia tae mai nga tohungatanga me te wa poto, ka hiahia pea koe ki te korero ki etahi atu mema o te whanau. Kaore koe e hiahia ki te mahi i tenei wa tonu, kaore hoki koe e mahi ko koe anake.
Mena ko koe te tangata tuatahi ki te mohio, whakaarohia ko wai me rongo a-tinana, ko wai ka taea te korero ma te waea. Ka taea e koe te tono ki tetahi tangata marino ki te waea mai mo koe. Korerohia te mea i tupu: "E pouri ana ahau ki te korero ki a koe kua mate a Tupuna i te po. I waea atu matou ki nga ratonga ohorere, kei a matou inaianei."
Te korero ki nga tangata e noho tawhiti ana¶
Telling people far away is hard. Short and clear is kind: say who has died, that it was unexpected, and that you will contact them again with more information. You do not need to explain details. You can say, "I do not have all the answers yet, but I wanted you to hear it from me."
Telling children¶
Children should be told honestly and gently, with words they understand and an adult they trust beside them. The guide to te korero ki nga tamariki me nga taiohi mo te mate gives simple wording for each age.
Nga mokai, nga raka, me nga mea iti¶
Ahakoa i enei haora tuatahi, ka puta mai nga mea iti. Ka awhina etahi korero:
- Ka mataku pea ka noho tata ki te tangata. A tuu ia ratou i roto i te tahi atu piha, e a ani i te hoê hoa ia afai mai ia nehenehe oe. Kaua e waiho hei awangawanga i runga ake i nga mea katoa.
- Nga tatau me nga ki: kia mohio ka taea e te tangata te tuku i nga kaihopu ki roto. Mena ko koe anake kaore e taea te tae ki te kuaha, korero atu ki te kaikawe waea ka taea e ia te whakarite huarahi.
- Medication: do not throw anything away. The professionals will tell you what to do with medicines later.
- Cooking and appliances: turn off anything that could cause harm.
- Your own medicines: if you take medicine at this time of day, take it as usual if you can.
The guide to the nga haora tuatahi me nga ra i muri i te mate i te kainga has a full checklist when you are ready, but it can wait.
What happens next in the days that follow¶
After the first hours, a few formal steps follow. They differ by country, but the order is similar.
- A doctor, coroner, or medical examiner decides whether a death certificate can be issued or whether more checks are needed.
- The person is taken to a funeral home or mortuary.
- The family is told when they can arrange a funeral and register the death.
- The family makes plans at their own pace.
You will be told what comes next by the professionals who attend, and you can ask them to write it down. It is perfectly fine to say, "Can you tell me again slowly," or "Can you write that down for me."
Why there may be a delay¶
If a coroner or medical examiner is involved, it may take a day or several days before the funeral director can collect your loved one. This can be frustrating and painful. Ask the coroner's office, or the officer who attended, for a contact number and the name of a person you can call. Funeral directors can often help you speak to the coroner's office.
Nga rereketanga o te whenua¶
Rules differ, so check locally. These notes are general, not legal advice.
I te United States¶
Call the emergency number (911). Paramedics will begin resuscitation unless there is a valid do-not-resuscitate order or the signs of death are clear. Police usually attend sudden deaths, and the county coroner or medical examiner may take responsibility for the person.
A funeral home can collect the person once the coroner or doctor releases them. Death certificates are usually issued by a doctor or the coroner.
I te United Kingdom¶
Call 999. Paramedics and often the police attend. If the death was unexpected, the police act on behalf of the coroner, and the person is usually taken to a mortuary.
A coroner may order a post-mortem examination. In England and Wales, a death must normally be registered within five days, but if a coroner is involved, the registrar will tell you when. NHS and government websites explain the steps in plain language.
I Kanata¶
Call 911. Paramedics and police attend. A coroner or medical examiner is involved in sudden or unexpected deaths, depending on the province or territory. The funeral home collects the person once they are released.
I Ahitereiria¶
Call 000. Paramedics and police attend an unexpected death, and the police act for the coroner. A funeral director can help with paperwork once the coroner has released the person. Each state and territory has its own coroner's office.
I etahi atu whenua¶
Most countries follow a similar pattern: someone must confirm the death, a doctor or official records the cause, and then a funeral can be arranged. The tau ohorere page can help you find the right number. Your local embassy or consulate can help if you are a visitor abroad.
Warning
If anyone in the home is in danger, or there are signs that the death was not natural, tell the call taker right away and leave the area if it is not safe. Your safety comes first.
When the person was elderly or ill but you did not expect it¶
Many people die at home of natural causes, even when they were not known to be dying. Heart rhythm problems, strokes, and other sudden events can happen in sleep. Families often say, "But she was fine yesterday." This can make the shock worse.
You may never know exactly why. Sometimes a post-mortem examination or the doctor's records give the answer, and sometimes the answer is simply that a heart stopped. Whatever the cause, it does not mean you missed something. Ordinary life does not include looking for signs that nobody could see.
If the person lived alone¶
If the person lived alone and you were the one who found them, you may feel guilt for not having visited sooner. Please be gentle with yourself. Caring for someone does not mean being there every moment. The professionals will help you find the right people to contact, and you can ask them what to do about the home and the pets.
If the person was under a doctor's care¶
If they had regular care, tell the paramedics and police the name of their doctor. A doctor who knew the person well can sometimes help the process move faster. You can also ask the doctor's office to give you a clear explanation of the person's health in the days to come.
Practical things you can ask for¶
During the visit, you may feel unable to think. It is completely fine to ask the professionals for help. Examples:
- "Can you write down your name and the case number?"
- "Who should I call tomorrow?"
- "Can you tell me what will happen to my loved one?"
- "Can you call a friend or relative for me?"
- "Is there a bereavement service, chaplain, or victim support person who can help?"
Many police services and ambulance services have a bereavement liaison officer or can arrange for someone to ring you after a day or two. Hospitals and community groups often offer support too.
What not to worry about yet¶
It can help to name the things that can wait. You do not have to decide any of these today:
- Funeral choices, burial or cremation, flowers, or music.
- Telling everyone you know.
- Cancelling subscriptions, bank accounts, or phone plans.
- Cleaning the room or sorting belongings.
- Writing an obituary or sending notices.
- Finding a will.
- Deciding who will inherit what.
All of these can be handled in the days and weeks to come, with help from family, a funeral director, and a solicitor or attorney if needed. The guide on the nga haora tuatahi me nga ra i muri i te mate i te kainga walks through them in a calm order.
Taking care of the people around you¶
If other people are in the home, including children, older relatives, or friends, they may need your attention. Try to share the load. Ask one person to make tea, another to phone family, another to look after pets or children.
If a child has seen what happened, stay close to them and speak calmly. Children are often more resilient than adults expect when they are told the truth in kind and simple words. The guide on te korero ki nga tamariki me nga taiohi mo te mate ka taea te awhina.
Notes on first aid training¶
If this experience has made you want to feel more prepared, a hands-on first aid course from the Red Cross, St John Ambulance, or a local provider can teach CPR and what to do in an emergency. It is not necessary today, and you should not feel pressure to do anything of the sort now. Many people find that learning later helps them feel less helpless.
Pātai auau¶
Do I have to call the emergency number if I am sure the person has died?¶
Yes. If the death was unexpected, the right first call is to your local emergency number, even if it seems obvious that nothing can be done. The call taker can guide you, send trained help, and make sure the correct officials are told. Calling quickly is the right and respectful thing to do and protects you from any later questions.
Why did the police come, and does it mean I am in trouble?¶
No. In most countries police attend every sudden or unexpected death at home on behalf of the coroner or medical examiner. It is a routine step to record what happened and help find the cause of death. It does not mean anyone suspects you of anything, and you can ask a friend or relative to sit with you while the officers speak to you.
Can I stay with my loved one until they are taken away?¶
In most cases, yes. Professionals understand that families want to say goodbye, and many are very kind about this. Ask the paramedics or police when it is best to step away and whether you can see the person again afterwards. If you are not sure, ask them to explain what will happen.
What if I touched or moved something before I called?¶
Please do not worry. Professionals know that people do natural things in shock, such as straightening a blanket, holding a hand, or moving a medicine bottle. Simply tell them honestly what you touched, and that is all they will need. You have not harmed anything by caring for your loved one.
Kua tirohia nga puna¶
- NHS (United Kingdom): "What to do after someone dies" and "How to register a death".
- GOV.UK (United Kingdom): "When someone dies" overview, and guidance on deaths reported to a coroner.
- Ripeka Whero (American Red Cross, British Red Cross) he aratohu mo te pouri me te aro ki te mate.
- American Heart Association (United States) he aratohu mo te CPR me te whakautu ki te hinga.
- Kāwanatanga o Kānata me ngā ratonga kaitirotiro matewhawhati porowini: he aratohu whānui mo te tuku korero mo te mate.
- Te Kawanatanga o Ahitereiria (Ratonga Ahitereiria) "Me aha ina mate te tangata" me nga korero a te kooti matewhawhati.
- Hospice and palliative tinana tiaki, tae atu ki te National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (United States) me Hospice UK, ko wai hei waea atu i muri i te mate ki te kainga.
Procedures vary by country, region, and circumstances. Always follow the instructions of the emergency call taker and local officials.