Telling children and teens about a death: what to say and how¶
លេខអាសន្នខុសគ្នាតាមប្រទេស. ទំព័រនេះប្រើលេខ 911 ដែលជាលេខសម្រាប់សហរដ្ឋអាមេរិក និងកាណាដា។ ប្រទេសជាច្រើនទៀតប្រើលេខ 112, 999 ឬលេខផ្សេងទៀត។ ស្វែងរកលេខសម្រាប់ប្រទេសរបស់អ្នក។.
If someone close to a child has died, you may be dreading the moment of telling them. You may not know the right words, and you may be grieving yourself. That is a very hard place to be, and you are not doing anything wrong by feeling unsure.
The good news is that children do not need perfect words. They need honesty, simple language, and a calm adult who stays close. Nothing here needs to be rushed. The only thing that matters in the first hours is that the child hears the news from someone they trust, and that they are not left alone with it.
ធ្វើដូចនេះឥឡូវនេះ¶
- Choose a trusted adult to tell the child. It should be someone the child knows and feels safe with, ideally a parent or close carer. If that person is too upset, ask another trusted adult to be there too.
- Pick a quiet, private place and a calm moment. Turn off screens and take a few slow breaths together. Sit at the child's level, close enough to hold a hand or hug if they want.
- Say it plainly and kindly. Use the word "died". For example: "I have very sad news. Grandma died this morning. Her body stopped working and she cannot come back."
- Tell them it is not their fault, and that nothing they said or thought caused it. Say that you are there and will stay with them.
- Let them react in their own way. Cry with them, answer questions, or sit in silence. Then offer a drink and a snack, and stay close.
- Tell the school or childcare soon, so that adults there can be gentle and watch for signs that the child is struggling.
If the death has just happened, remember that the first call to the right service comes first. The guides to a ស្លាប់ភ្លាមៗនៅផ្ទះ and an expected death at home explain who to call.
អ្នកមិនធ្វើអ្វីខុសទេ។¶
Many adults worry that they will upset a child by telling them the truth. In fact, children usually sense that something is wrong before they are told. When adults whisper, cry behind closed doors, or change their plans, children often imagine something even worse, or decide that they did something wrong.
Telling the truth in a gentle way is one of the kindest things you can do. You do not have to be strong or calm all the time. It is okay for a child to see you cry. It shows them that sadness is normal and that people can feel it and still be safe.
If you get the words wrong, you can go back and say, "I would like to explain that again." Children are forgiving, and they will keep learning and asking over weeks and years.
Why honesty matters¶
កុមារធ្វើឱ្យយល់អំពីពិភពលោកជាមួយនឹងព័ត៌មានដែលពួកគេមាន។ ប្រសិនបើការពិតត្រូវបានលាក់ ពួកគេបំពេញចន្លោះជាមួយនឹងគំនិតរបស់ពួកគេ ដែលជារឿយៗគួរឱ្យភ័យខ្លាចជាងការពិតទៅទៀត។ កុមារដែលត្រូវបានគេប្រាប់ថាជីតា "បានទៅឆ្ងាយ" អាចនឹងរង់ចាំឱ្យពួកគេត្រឡប់មកវិញ ឬមានអារម្មណ៍ថាត្រូវគេបោះបង់ចោល។ កុមារម្នាក់បានប្រាប់ថាអ្នកណាម្នាក់ "ចូលគេង" អាចនឹងខ្លាចពេលចូលគេង។
Bereavement charities and child health bodies, including Winston's Wish and Child Bereavement UK in the United Kingdom and the National Alliance for Children's Grief in the United States, all recommend using clear words such as "died" and "dead". They also recommend answering questions truthfully and at the child's level.
Words to use¶
- "Died" and "dead".
- "His body stopped working."
- "Her heart stopped, and the doctors could not make it start again."
- "វាមិនមែនជាកំហុសរបស់អ្នកទេ ហើយគ្មាននរណាម្នាក់អាចបញ្ឈប់វាបានទេ"
- "It is okay to feel sad, mad, or confused."
Words to avoid¶
| Avoid | ហេតុអ្វី? | Try instead |
|---|---|---|
| "Gone to sleep" | Can cause fear of sleep or of never waking | "His body stopped working and he died" |
| "We lost her" | Can make a child think she could be found | "She died, and we cannot see her again" |
| "Gone away" or "passed on" | Can leave a child waiting for a return | "He died, and that means he cannot come back" |
| "God needed her" | Can make a child angry at God or afraid to be good | Use your family's beliefs gently, after saying "died" |
| "Be brave" or "do not cry" | បង្រៀនកុមារឱ្យលាក់អារម្មណ៍ | "មិនអីទេយំ។ ខ្ញុំក៏សោកសៅដែរ"។ |
| "គាត់ឈឺ" ដោយគ្មានព័ត៌មានលម្អិត | អាចធ្វើឱ្យកុមារភ័យខ្លាចជំងឺផ្តាសាយ | "គាត់មានជំងឺធ្ងន់ធ្ងរខុសពីជំងឺផ្តាសាយ" |
ប្រសិនបើគ្រួសាររបស់អ្នកមានជំនឿ នោះជាការល្អក្នុងការចែករំលែកពួកគេ។ និយាយអ្វីដែលបានកើតឡើងជាមុនសិន បន្ទាប់មកបន្ថែមអ្វីដែលគ្រួសារអ្នកជឿ ជាពាក្យសាមញ្ញ។ ឧទាហរណ៍៖ "ជីតាបានស្លាប់។ គ្រួសាររបស់យើងជឿថាវិញ្ញាណរបស់គាត់បានសុខសាន្ត"។
របៀបប្រាប់កុមារដែលមានអាយុខុសគ្នា¶
កុមារយល់ពីការស្លាប់ខុសគ្នានៅពេលពួកគេធំឡើង។ ទាំងនេះគឺជាមគ្គុទ្ទេសក៍ទូទៅ ហើយកុមារគ្រប់រូបគឺខុសគ្នា។ ធ្វើតាមការណែនាំរបស់កូនអ្នក ហើយអនុញ្ញាតឱ្យពួកគេសុំច្រើន ឬតិចតាមដែលពួកគេចង់បាន។
ទារក និងកុមារទើបចេះដើរតេះតះ (អាយុក្រោម 3 ឆ្នាំ)¶
កុមារតូចៗមិនយល់ពីសេចក្តីស្លាប់ទេ ប៉ុន្តែពួកគេមានអារម្មណ៍ផ្លាស់ប្តូរទម្លាប់ និងអារម្មណ៍ជុំវិញខ្លួនពួកគេ។ ពួកគេអាចនឹងយំកាន់តែច្រើន តោងជាប់នឹងទម្លាប់មុន ឬហាក់ដូចជាមិនស្ងប់។
អ្វីដែលជួយ៖
- រក្សាទម្លាប់សម្រាប់អាហារ គេង និងលេងឱ្យបានជាប់លាប់តាមដែលអាចធ្វើទៅបាន។
- ផ្តល់ការថើប ពាក្យទន់ភ្លន់ និងវត្ថុដែលធ្លាប់ស្គាល់។
- ប្រើពាក្យសាមញ្ញប្រសិនបើពួកគេសួរថា "ប៉ាបានស្លាប់ហើយ។ គាត់មិនអាចត្រលប់មកវិញបានទេ។ យើងសោកសៅ ហើយខ្ញុំនៅទីនេះ" ។
- រំពឹងថានឹងធ្វើសារឡើងវិញច្រើនដង។
កុមារមត្តេយ្យសិក្សា (ប្រហែល 3 ទៅ 5)¶
កុមារតូចៗតែងតែមើលឃើញថាការស្លាប់ជាបណ្តោះអាសន្ន ដូចជាការគេង ឬការធ្វើដំណើរជាដើម។ ពួកគេអាចនឹងសួរសំណួរដដែលៗជាច្រើនដងដូចជា "តើលោកយាយត្រឡប់មកវិញនៅពេលណា"។ នេះគឺជារឿងធម្មតា។ ពួកគេក៏មានទំនោរជឿថាគំនិត ឬសកម្មភាពរបស់ពួកគេអាចបង្កឱ្យមានរឿង។
អ្វីដែលជួយ៖
- ប្រើប្រយោគខ្លីៗជាក់ស្តែង៖ "លោកយាយបានស្លាប់ហើយ។ រាងកាយរបស់គាត់ឈប់ដំណើរការ។ គាត់មិនអាចញ៉ាំ ដកដង្ហើម ឬមានអារម្មណ៍អ្វីបានទេ។ គាត់នឹងមិនត្រលប់មកវិញទេ"។
- និយាយឱ្យច្បាស់ថាវាមិនមែនជាកំហុសរបស់គេទេ។
- ឆ្លើយសំណួរដដែលៗដោយអត់ធ្មត់ ដោយពាក្យដដែលៗ។
- ផ្តល់ជូនការលេង ការគូរ និងរឿង។ កុមារតូចៗតែងតែដំណើរការតាមរយៈការលេង។
- រំពឹងថាអារម្មណ៍ធំនឹងមកយ៉ាងឆាប់រហ័ស។ ក្មេងអាចយំ បន្ទាប់មកសុំអាហារសម្រន់។
កុមារបឋមសិក្សា (ប្រហែល ៦ ទៅ ៩)¶
កុមារក្នុងក្រុមអាយុនេះចាប់ផ្ដើមយល់ថាសេចក្ដីស្លាប់គឺជាអចិន្ត្រៃយ៍ ហើយថាភាវៈរស់ទាំងអស់ត្រូវស្លាប់។ ពួកគេប្រហែលជាចង់ដឹងចង់ឃើញអំពីសាកសព តើមានអ្វីកើតឡើងនៅក្នុងពិធីបុណ្យសព និងអ្វីដែលបណ្តាលឱ្យស្លាប់។ ពួកគេក៏ប្រហែលជាបារម្ភថាអ្នកដទៃដែលខ្លួនស្រឡាញ់នឹងស្លាប់។
អ្វីដែលជួយ៖
- ផ្តល់ការពិតដ៏សាមញ្ញ និងស្មោះត្រង់។ ប្រសិនបើកុមារសួរថាតើនរណាម្នាក់បានស្លាប់ដោយរបៀបណា ចូរឆ្លើយតាមការពិតក្នុងកម្រិតមួយដែលពួកគេអាចដោះស្រាយបាន ដោយគ្មានព័ត៌មានលម្អិត។
- ធានាពួកគេអំពីអ្នកណានឹងមើលថែពួកគេ។ និយាយថា "ខ្ញុំមានសុខភាពល្អ ហើយខ្ញុំមានគម្រោងនៅទីនេះយូរណាស់" ។
- អញ្ជើញសំណួរ ហើយនិយាយថា គ្មានសំណួរណាដែលឆ្កួត។
- ផ្តល់ជូននូវវិធីចងចាំ ដូចជា គូរ សរសេរសំបុត្រ ឬបង្កើតប្រអប់ចងចាំ។
- មើលការឈឺពោះ ឈឺក្បាល បញ្ហាក្នុងការគេង ឬការផ្លាស់ប្តូរនៅសាលា ដែលអាចជាសញ្ញានៃទុក្ខព្រួយ។
ក្មេងចាស់ (ប្រហែល 10 ទៅ 12 ឆ្នាំ)¶
ក្មេងជំទង់យល់ពីការស្លាប់តាមរបៀបជាមនុស្សពេញវ័យ។ ពួកគេអាចមានអារម្មណ៍ក្រៀមក្រំ កំហឹង ការភ័យខ្លាច ឬកំហុស ហើយពួកគេអាចព្យាយាមបង្ហាញភាពល្អ ឬជៀសវាងការនិយាយ។ ពួកគេក៏អាចប្រៀបធៀបស្ថានភាពរបស់ពួកគេជាមួយមិត្តភ័ក្តិ ហើយមានអារម្មណ៍ខុសគ្នាដែរ។
អ្វីដែលជួយ៖
- មានភាពស្មោះត្រង់ និងផ្តល់ព័ត៌មានលម្អិត ប្រសិនបើពួកគេស្នើសុំ។
- អនុញ្ញាតឱ្យពួកគេជ្រើសរើសថាតើត្រូវនិយាយ សរសេរ គូរ ឬសកម្ម។
- គោរពឯកជនភាព ប៉ុន្តែចូលដោយទន់ភ្លន់ និងញឹកញាប់។
- អនុញ្ញាតឱ្យពួកគេជួយរៀបចំផែនការ ដូចជាការជ្រើសរើសតន្ត្រី ឬរូបថតសម្រាប់ពិធីបុណ្យសព។
- ប្រាប់សាលារបស់ពួកគេ និងសុំការយល់ដឹងអំពីការងារ និងអាកប្បកិរិយា។
ក្មេងជំទង់ (ប្រហែល 13 និងចាស់ជាងនេះ)¶
ក្មេងជំទង់យល់ច្បាស់អំពីសេចក្តីស្លាប់ ប៉ុន្តែពួកគេអាចបង្ហាញពីទុក្ខសោកតាមរបៀបដែលមិននឹកស្មានដល់៖ ការដកខ្លួន ការឆាប់ខឹង ការប្រថុយប្រថាន ការផ្លាស់ប្តូរដំណេក ឬចំណង់អាហារ ឬការបោះចោលខ្លួនឯងទៅក្នុងសកម្មភាព។ ពួកគេប្រហែលជាចូលចិត្តមិត្តភ័ក្តិចំពោះគ្រួសារសម្រាប់ការគាំទ្រ។ ពួកគេក៏អាចនឹងមានសម្ពាធក្នុងការទទួលខុសត្រូវរបស់មនុស្សពេញវ័យផងដែរ។
អ្វីដែលជួយ៖
- ប្រាប់ពួកគេពីការពិតដោយផ្ទាល់ ដោយគោរពដូចគ្នា អ្នកនឹងផ្តល់ឱ្យមនុស្សពេញវ័យ។
- ផ្តល់ឱ្យពួកគេនូវជម្រើសអំពីរបៀបចូលរួមក្នុងពិធីបុណ្យសព និងអ្វីដែលត្រូវធ្វើនៅពេលក្រោយ។
- Do not expect them to be the "man of the house" or replace the person who died.
- Stay available without pushing. A short, quiet moment in the car or while making food can open up a conversation.
- Make sure they know where to turn if they feel overwhelmed, including a trusted adult, a counsellor, or a helpline.
Teenagers can be at increased risk of low mood or thoughts of self harm after a loss. If you are worried, ask directly and calmly. The guide on មើលថែខ្លួនឯងដោយទុក្ខសោក covers warning signs and what to do, and the guide on វិបត្តិសុខភាពផ្លូវចិត្ត explains how to respond.
How to have the conversation¶
A few simple steps can make a hard conversation easier.
Before¶
- Take a few minutes to steady yourself. It is okay if you cry, but try to be able to speak.
- Decide on the words you will use, and write them down if that helps.
- Choose a place where the child feels safe, such as their bedroom, a sofa, or a garden.
- Make sure you will not be interrupted.
- Have a tissue box, a drink, and perhaps a favourite toy or blanket nearby.
During¶
- Start by saying you have something sad to tell them. This gives them a moment to prepare.
- Say what has happened in plain words. Use the word "died".
- Pause. Let the silence be. Let the child react.
- Offer a hug if they want one. Do not force it.
- Answer questions honestly. If you do not know, say, "I do not know, and I will find out."
- Tell them what will happen next, such as who will be at home and when they will see you again.
- Say, "It is not your fault, and I love you."
After¶
- Offer a drink, a snack, and a gentle activity.
- Stay close for the next few hours.
- Let them know they can ask again, at any time.
- Tell their teacher or school.
A simple flow for the conversation¶
flowchart TD
A["Choose a trusted adult and a quiet place"] --> B["Say that you have sad news"]
B --> C["Say the word died in simple words"]
C --> D["Say it is not their fault"]
D --> E["Let them react in their own way"]
E --> F["Answer questions honestly and simply"]
F --> G["Tell them what happens next"]
G --> H["Stay close and check in again later"]Questions children often ask¶
Children's questions may be blunt, and they may come at unexpected times. That is a good sign. It means the child feels safe enough to ask.
"Why did they die." Give a simple, true answer. For example, "His heart stopped working," or "She was very sick, and her body could not get better." If the cause is not known, say, "The doctors are trying to find out."
"Will it happen to you." Be honest but reassuring. "Everyone dies one day, but I expect to be here for a very long time. I look after my health, and there are lots of people who will always take care of you."
"Did it hurt." If you know, answer simply. "She was not in pain at the end," or "The doctors gave medicine to help him feel comfortable." If you do not know, say, "I think it was very quick." Do not make promises you cannot keep.
"Is it my fault." Always say no, clearly and warmly. "No, nothing you said or thought made this happen."
"Where are they now." Answer according to your beliefs, in simple words, after saying that the body has died. If you are not sure, you can say, "Different people believe different things. What do you think?"
"Can I see them." The answer depends on the situation. If the person is at home or in a funeral home, some children benefit from a short, supported visit. Explain what they will see first, and let them choose.
"Can I still talk to them." Yes. Many children feel comforted by talking to the person, writing letters, or keeping a special object.
Deaths that are harder to explain¶
Some deaths are more difficult to talk about, such as suicide, overdose, violence, accident, or a death of a child. Children still need truth, told gently and in age-appropriate words.
If a death was by suicide, experts recommend telling children honestly, without graphic detail. You might say, "Dad died by suicide. That means he ended his own life because his mind was very, very ill and he could not see another way. It is not your fault, and nobody could have known."
Avoid language that suggests blame. If you are unsure, a counsellor or a bereavement service can help you prepare.
If the death was sudden or traumatic, it helps to seek professional support for the child early. Many countries have free services for children after sudden deaths, and a doctor or school can help you find them.
Funerals and goodbyes: giving children a choice¶
Children can find funerals confusing or frightening if they are not prepared, but many also say that being included helped them feel part of the family and say goodbye. Experts generally recommend giving children the choice, with clear information, rather than deciding for them.
Preparing a child for a funeral¶
Explain in simple terms:
- Who will be there, and what people may do, such as cry, hug, or share stories.
- Where it will be held, and what the room looks like.
- ថាតើសាកសពឬមឈូសនឹងមានវត្តមានហើយមឈូសគឺជាអ្វី។
- What will happen, such as music, readings, a burial, or a cremation.
- តើវានឹងមានរយៈពេលប៉ុន្មាន។
- That they can leave at any time with a trusted adult.
Show photos of the place, if possible. If the funeral involves cremation, you can explain, "The body is placed in a special oven, which turns it into ashes. The person cannot feel anything."
ជម្រើសសម្រាប់កុមារ¶
| Choice | What it can look like | Things to think about |
|---|---|---|
| Attend the whole funeral | Child sits with a trusted adult | Prepare them, and have a plan for leaving if they need to |
| Attend part of it | Child comes for the service but not the burial | Useful for younger children with shorter attention spans |
| Stay home and take part in another way | Child draws a picture, writes a letter, chooses a song, or lights a candle | Good for children who do not wish to attend |
| Say goodbye privately | A short visit or a quiet family moment | Allows a personal goodbye, away from a crowd |
| Hold a separate remembrance | A small gathering, a walk, or a planting of a tree | Can be done now or later |
Always assign a trusted adult to stay with the child during the funeral. This person's job is to look after the child, not the whole event. They can answer questions, take the child outside, and make sure the child has water and a snack.
If a child chooses not to attend¶
If a child does not want to attend, respect their choice. They can still be included in other ways, such as drawing a picture to place with the coffin, choosing a song, or visiting the grave or memorial later. Some people regret not having the chance, so offer later opportunities to say goodbye.
Seeing the body¶
If the person is lying in an open coffin or at home, a child may want to see them. Explain beforehand: "Grandpa's body will look still and a little different. His eyes are closed. He cannot feel anything."
Let the child decide, and stay close. Some children want to touch a hand or leave a drawing, and others prefer to stay back.
What to expect in the days and weeks after¶
Children grieve differently from adults. They often move in and out of sadness, sometimes in the space of a few minutes. A child may cry, then ask for a snack, then run outside to play. This is normal and healthy, and it does not mean they do not care.
Common reactions¶
- Sadness, crying, and clinginess.
- Anger or irritability, including tantrums or outbursts.
- Fear that others will die, or fear of being alone.
- Trouble sleeping, nightmares, or wanting to sleep in your bed.
- Changes in appetite.
- Stomachaches, headaches, or tiredness.
- Going back to earlier behaviours, such as bedwetting or thumb sucking.
- Difficulty concentrating at school.
- Playing out death or funerals in games.
- Asking the same questions repeatedly.
These reactions often ease with time, routine, and support. They are signs that the child is working through their grief, not that something is wrong with them.
អ្វីដែលជួយ¶
- Keep routines for meals, bedtime, and school as steady as possible.
- Offer comfort, patience, and time.
- Talk about the person who died, using their name, sharing stories, and looking at photos.
- Create ways to remember them, such as a memory box, a photo album, or a special day.
- Let the child see that you grieve too, and that you cope.
- Be consistent and clear about who will look after them.
- Give them space to play, laugh, and be a child.
Special days¶
Birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, and the first day back at school can bring grief back. Plan ahead for these days. Ask the child what they would like to do, such as lighting a candle, visiting a place, or cooking a favourite meal.
Children with additional needs¶
Children with autism, learning disabilities, or communication differences also need honest, simple explanations. They may take words very literally, so avoid phrases that can be misunderstood. Use short sentences, pictures, or a simple story, and repeat the message as often as needed.
Keep routines as predictable as you can, and tell the child in advance about any changes. A visual schedule, a familiar object, or a quiet space can help. If you are unsure how to explain, ask the child's teacher, therapist, or a bereavement service for tips that suit your child.
When children are in two homes¶
If a child lives between two homes, make sure both households use the same words and share the news quickly. A child should not hear about a death from a rumour or a message on a phone. Agree on who will tell the child, and make sure the child has a trusted adult with them afterwards.
Talking with your child's school¶
Tell your child's school or childcare as soon as you can. A teacher who knows can be gentle, avoid surprises, and let the child take a break if needed. Ask the school who the child can go to if they feel upset, and whether they offer a counsellor or a quiet room.
Let the school know what the child has been told, so they use the same words. You might say, "We have told Maya that her grandfather died of a heart attack. She may be upset or need a break."
Classmates¶
Some schools talk to classmates, with the family's permission, so that other children know and can be kind. You can ask what the school plans to say, and agree on it together.
Looking after yourself while you care for children¶
It is hard to be a source of comfort when you are grieving too. You do not have to hide your feelings, but you also need support. Share the load, ask for help with meals and school runs, and make time to rest.
If you feel overwhelmed, or you have thoughts of harming yourself, tell someone right away. You can call your local emergency number (911 in the United States and Canada, 112 across the European Union, 999 in the United Kingdom) or a crisis line. The លេខសង្គ្រោះបន្ទាន់ page lists them by country. The guide on មើលថែខ្លួនឯងដោយទុក្ខសោក has more.
Note
You do not have to say everything perfectly. A child who feels loved, told the truth, and kept safe will usually cope far better than a child who is protected from the truth. You can always go back and explain again.
When to seek extra help for a child¶
Most children cope with the support of family, school, and time. Seek help from a doctor, counsellor, or children's bereavement service if, after a few weeks, a child:
- Cannot sleep, or has persistent nightmares.
- Refuses to go to school or has a big drop in schoolwork.
- Withdraws completely from friends and activities they used to enjoy.
- Has intense, ongoing anger or aggression.
- Harms themselves, or talks about wanting to die or to join the person who died.
- Has frequent unexplained physical symptoms.
- Seems stuck in fear or guilt that does not ease.
If a child or teenager talks about suicide or harming themselves, take it seriously. Stay with them, listen without judgement, and get help right away. Call your local emergency number, a crisis line such as 988 in the United States and Canada, or take them to an emergency department.
កន្លែងដែលត្រូវស្វែងរកការគាំទ្រ¶
- Children's bereavement charities, such as Winston's Wish and Child Bereavement UK in the United Kingdom, and the National Alliance for Children's Grief and the Dougy Center in the United States.
- Child helplines: Childline in the United Kingdom, Kids Help Phone in Canada, Kids Helpline in Australia.
- School counsellors and educational psychologists.
- គ្រូពេទ្យគ្រួសាររបស់អ្នក ដែលអាចបញ្ជូនអ្នកទៅកាន់សេវាសុខភាពផ្លូវចិត្តរបស់កុមារ។
- ក្រុមសង្គ្រោះមន្ទីរពេទ្យ ដែលជាញឹកញាប់ជួយដល់កុមារ និងយុវជន។
- Faith communities and community groups.
ភាពខុសគ្នាតាមប្រទេស¶
Practices and services differ by country, but the advice on honesty, gentle words, and support is similar everywhere. Here are some pointers.
នៅសហរដ្ឋអាមេរិក¶
មន្ទីរពេទ្យបង្អែក សាលារៀន និងមណ្ឌលសោកសង្រេងរបស់កុមារតែងតែដំណើរការកម្មវិធីឥតគិតថ្លៃ ឬតម្លៃទាបសម្រាប់កុមារដែលបានស្លាប់។ បណ្ឌិតសភាកុមារអាមេរិកផ្តល់ការណែនាំសម្រាប់ឪពុកម្តាយ។ 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline មានសម្រាប់មនុស្សវ័យក្មេង និងមនុស្សពេញវ័យ។
នៅចក្រភពអង់គ្លេស¶
Winston's Wish, Child Bereavement UK, and Cruse Bereavement Support offer help, including helplines. The NHS has guidance for parents on talking with children about death. Childline offers free support for under 19s.
នៅប្រទេសកាណាដា¶
Hospice societies and children's hospitals offer bereavement support. Kids Help Phone offers free, confidential support for young people.
នៅប្រទេសអូស្ត្រាលី¶
Many community and hospice services offer grief support for children. Kids Helpline offers free counselling, and Lifeline supports adults in crisis.
នៅប្រទេសផ្សេងៗ¶
Ask your doctor, school, hospice, or local health service about children's bereavement support. Faith communities and community groups may also help. See the លេខសង្គ្រោះបន្ទាន់ page for crisis lines.
កំណត់ចំណាំស្តីពីការបណ្តុះបណ្តាលជំនួយដំបូង¶
If you want to feel more prepared in a medical emergency, a hands-on first aid course from the Red Cross, St John Ambulance, or a local provider can teach CPR and other skills. There is no need to do this now, and nobody should feel pressure to. Some families find that learning later helps them feel less helpless.
សំណួរដែលគេសួរញឹកញាប់¶
Should I use the word "died" with a young child?¶
Yes. Child bereavement experts recommend using clear words such as "died" and "dead" with simple explanations, because phrases like "gone to sleep" or "we lost him" can confuse or frighten children. You can follow it with comforting words and your family's beliefs, but say plainly what has happened first. Children usually handle the truth better than adults expect.
Should children go to the funeral?¶
Most experts suggest giving children the choice, with clear information about what will happen and a trusted adult to stay with them. Many children say they were glad to be included, while others prefer to say goodbye in a different way, and both choices are fine. If a child chooses not to attend, offer another way to take part, such as drawing a picture or visiting later.
What if my child does not seem upset?¶
Children grieve in short bursts and may appear fine, then cry later or play out their feelings. Not showing sadness right away does not mean they do not care or do not understand. Keep routines steady, stay available, and let them know they can talk to you at any time.
What if I cry in front of my child?¶
It is okay and even helpful for a child to see you cry, because it shows that sadness is normal and that people can feel it and still be safe. Explain simply, "I am crying because I am sad that Grandpa died. I will be okay." If you feel overwhelmed, ask another trusted adult to step in and take a break.
ប្រភពបានពិនិត្យ¶
- NHS (United Kingdom): "Helping a child or young person after a bereavement" and guidance on supporting grieving children.
- Winston's Wish (United Kingdom): guidance for talking to children about death and funerals.
- Child Bereavement UK: guidance for telling children, and supporting young people.
- American Academy of Pediatrics (United States): HealthyChildren.org guidance on talking to children about death and grief.
- National Alliance for Children's Grief and the Dougy Center (United States): guidance on supporting grieving children and teenagers.
- Red Cross (American Red Cross, British Red Cross): supporting children after a loss.
- Government of Canada and Kids Help Phone: resources for young people and families.
- Australian Government Department of Health, Kids Helpline, and Grief Australia: supporting bereaved children.
- 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (United States and Canada).
ការណែនាំប្រែប្រួលតាមកុមារ និងតាមប្រទេស។ ប្រសិនបើអ្នកព្រួយបារម្ភអំពីកុមារ សូមពិគ្រោះជាមួយវេជ្ជបណ្ឌិត ឬសេវាសង្គ្រោះកុមារ។